This is such an important and timely reminder. We’re hosting holidays this year and I’ve been in my head about how to make it enjoyable and memorable for everyone. Your thesis makes me think I should focus on being present and connecting with people, rather than ruminating about the details and flourishes. People want to be heard. Thank you.
Thank *you* for sharing! Sometimes creating the perfect atmosphere has to do with creating opportunities for real talk-- for example, it sounds cheesy, but having everyone at the table participate in "rose, bud, thorn" is such a nice way to start a meal. (Rose + one thing you are super happy about, bud = something you are looking forward to, thorn = something challenging or painful happening in your life.)
Totally believe this is a better way to sanity and health for all of us--to slow the train down, especially now. Thanks for posting the story about how to do that.
Gosh doesn't a slow, luxurious train sound like absolute heaven right now? I saw a video of the Orient Express on TikTok recently and started thinking....hmmm...do I need to get on that slow train? Thanks for reading and commenting!
Loved the story about the farrier! There's research that suggests our positive interactions with strangers add actual time to our lifespan (from the "Blue Zones" longevity work coming out of Sardinia, also featured in the Netflix doc "Live to 100"). It's so hard to make time for it, though, when the ergonomics of our lives disincentivize it. Nice to read other people live with this tension, too.
My (aspirational) intention for the holidays: Beatific patience with my children, i.e., to give them time
Gosh, that's so refreshing to hear about such inspiring research. Show me your ways with beatific patience-- my husband and I are caught in an endless battle of attrition with our daughter who is anti-homework, anti-time management and we're at our wit's end!
This is such an important and timely reminder. We’re hosting holidays this year and I’ve been in my head about how to make it enjoyable and memorable for everyone. Your thesis makes me think I should focus on being present and connecting with people, rather than ruminating about the details and flourishes. People want to be heard. Thank you.
Thank *you* for sharing! Sometimes creating the perfect atmosphere has to do with creating opportunities for real talk-- for example, it sounds cheesy, but having everyone at the table participate in "rose, bud, thorn" is such a nice way to start a meal. (Rose + one thing you are super happy about, bud = something you are looking forward to, thorn = something challenging or painful happening in your life.)
Totally believe this is a better way to sanity and health for all of us--to slow the train down, especially now. Thanks for posting the story about how to do that.
Gosh doesn't a slow, luxurious train sound like absolute heaven right now? I saw a video of the Orient Express on TikTok recently and started thinking....hmmm...do I need to get on that slow train? Thanks for reading and commenting!
Loved the story about the farrier! There's research that suggests our positive interactions with strangers add actual time to our lifespan (from the "Blue Zones" longevity work coming out of Sardinia, also featured in the Netflix doc "Live to 100"). It's so hard to make time for it, though, when the ergonomics of our lives disincentivize it. Nice to read other people live with this tension, too.
My (aspirational) intention for the holidays: Beatific patience with my children, i.e., to give them time
Gosh, that's so refreshing to hear about such inspiring research. Show me your ways with beatific patience-- my husband and I are caught in an endless battle of attrition with our daughter who is anti-homework, anti-time management and we're at our wit's end!